Hi friends:<P>I am feeling wonderful peace. I wrote my Plan B letter for my situation. I re-affirmed that there would be no further contact and no interaction. I also offered to meet his needs if he met mine... and said I would end my behaviors as long as he stopped his.<P>I stated clearly the actions that I wanted in order to respond to him the way that he wanted.<P>I feel wonderfully peaceful. If I had not ended my side of the war... if I had not offered conditions of peace and mutual edification... I feel certain that I would still be locked in inner conflict on the inside of me.<P>I truly ended the war. I am sincerely willing to give... given the right conditions... and I am firmly committed to no contact without same.<P>I am somewhat open, at this time, to seeing someone else myself. There is someone I find attractive to me. However, I still prefer this single... but unavailable yet attracted to me... man.<P>To me, he is my ideal. <P>After sending the letter and pondering my inner being... I decided that I am truly open in my heart to a relationship. I am willing to receive what a man has to offer me... and I am willing to respond in return.<P>Part of the reason that we clashed so, in my case, is because I was not ready to feel that way... this man became hurt in response... began seeing someone else... and so I never really did become open or responsive in his presence. <BR>We never really had that chance. I am happier, now, having drawn lines that were respectful of both parties.<P>I am enjoying this peace... after so much inner conflict and struggling.<P>God bless,<P>Laura<P><BR>

<P>Wishing you all the best!<P> <P>Jim

I think you first have to resolve one thing with yourself: do you want this relationship to continue or to end?<BR>If you are just starting plan B I am not sure you are in position to negotiate right now. I believe that time will come eventually but after sometime. This way you are kind of blackmailing this man with your condition before he is ready to negotiate, SEEMS TO ME, BUT AS I DON'T KNOW THE DETAILS I MAY BE WRONG.<BR>