MB principles are working! Very stressful weekend. WS worked Friday night and a friend calls, wondering if I'd join him for a few beers. I'm not a big drinker and have preferred keeping a clear head during this time. I should add that I have had to give up most of my friends during the course of our marriage. This invitation seemed to be good timing. Not to seek some kind of get-even tactic, just to get away. W wasn't sure she was even gonna come home that night. We had a good talk and some laughs but we both behaved. The next morning, W was home and I told her we went out. She still acted cool and distant, still undecided on whether she'd be moving out. I felt really uncomfortable around her.<P>Spent all of Saturday apart: her working, then going out shopping (with a girlfriend - it was always ok for HER to have friends - that's somehow different), followed by a few drinks at a bar herself. I spent the afternoon with another (male) friend and the evening alone.<P>The next morning, she kisses me and said she missed me and that it really bothered her that I was at a bar (without her). She also had a day and a half to basically do whatever she wanted to. The novelty may have worn out? I doubt she'll say it was a mistake to suggest we separate ("until she figures out what she wants"), but this is good enough for me.<P>For all the ups & downs and (recovery) false starts, we seem to be back on track. I thank Plan A for convincing myself to be the best "me" I can. I know we still have issues to be dealt with, but I think we're gonna be ok. I really don't care to know anymore than I do about the A.<P>Even left me a note this morning saying, among many things, she wanted sex. It's been a couple of months.<P>Thought I'd share some good news!<P>IFS/Mark<p>[This message has been edited by Ifeelstupid (edited June 25, 2001).]
