My H of 15 yrs revealed he had a GF he met on the internet, who lives in another state. He travels on business, so it wasn't hard for them to meet (4 times). In his midlife crisis, he lost his job, hence no more traveling. I've been plan "A"ing him, but fell as tho i'm loosing my self esteem in the process. Now he tells me that "I've made my bed...now I'll lie in it" as a way of saying he'll stay in our marriage, and with our childen. He and his GF realize they can't have what they want, but will always be good friends, chatting online, etc.<BR>I'm not sure that this is enough. How can i ever know what he does online? What if accepts another job that travels? He still seems to want to blame me for his predicament, shows no remorse and only limited affection. He said that he knows that I'll never trust him, yet he doesn't make any effort to try to rebuild any trust. Am I on the right track? I'm not sure if I'm ready for plan B, now more difficult since his layoff, but think it would be the only way for him to see his situation more clearly.

You've got to make him promise you that he has cut off ALL communication with the OW! This is the absolute first step in making it work! I could NOT handle it if I knew my W was still chatting with the OM online.<P>It is his choice, you or her!