The Lord does work in mysterious ways!<P>Some of you know that one of my boundaries is that my H does not go to a bar without me, and that I caught him out at the bar an hour after closing...with only the female bartender and 2 female customers. (Suspect that he had lined the bartender up in his sights. )<P>Anyway, I put my foot down about his violating my boundaries. Then, on Wednesday, I took my mother to our vacation place to spend a few days and attend a family reunion. I called Wednesday night. H wasn't home and wasn't answering his cellphone. You guessed it...he was at the bar. <P>So....I sorta started a Plan B without the letter. I turned my phone off and refused to call him back. Well, that was a LB, but I was sure that I would blow my stack if I talked to him.<P>I came home last night, and he let me have it. He said that he hadn't done a thing to be ashamed of and that he had better sense than to "fool around". He said that he couldn't get together with his friends and just have a drink or two...well, you get the gist of it. He said that he was not going to stop going to the bar. He said that he does respect me, but he's not going to kiss my @$$.<P>So.....all day, I've been making my plans for going to Plan B.<P>This afternoon, he told me that he heard the owner had shut the bar down. Later on tonight, he told me that the owner's wife (whom he can't stand) is now the owner of the bar. They just got divorced after she caught him with OW, so I guess she cleaned his slate. Anyhow, my H said that I wouldn't have to worry about his going out to the bar while she is the owner. <P>Another thing I was thinking....the now-FORMER bar owner got caught cheating; then he has a motocycle wreck with the OW, which resulted in the OW being in a coma for the past couple of months and she is now in a nursing home; now his ex-wife owns his bar! Looks like Somebody is trying to tell him something!<P>LC<p>[This message has been edited by Lady Clueless (edited July 24, 2001).]

I'm still in Plan A, but we have alittle girl....if I had to switch (later) to Plan B...jow do you accomplish this??? I have to see my daughter at least every other day.