Hello All,<P>Faith1 thanks for your help and encouragement. Heck after talking with you I had planned to push Plan B off until after the new year, but things have changed. I have been Plan Aing my WS for the past few months. Trying to be there for support and really trying to here what she was saying, which by the way wasn't much. She was never willing to go to counciling or even read a book. I was really trying hard to give her the benefit of the doubt by trusting that she would cease contact with OM. Well a few weeks ago I asked her when she last talked to him. She said they talked on the phone a week or 2 back and it was just chit chat. I didn't LB I camly said OK and thanks for being honest. She has also been showing many outward signs of affection, actually just enought ot keep me guessing. Well I just found out yesterday through some detective work that everything is a lie!!!! I was able to see some e-mail stuff that showed she had emailed him almost everyday up until 7/20. I also found a temp file on her computer from a chat session from 6/30. It seems nothing has changed except her ability to deceive me. I am planning on leaving Friday. I have my letter put together thanks to many other people from this site. I also plan to talk to my children Friday morning before I go any where. They are 12 and 19.<BR>Please wish me luck and keep me in your prayers.<P>Remember - The most we can ask for is the strength to follow the path that God puts down before us.<P>Spiceman62