Hi all i seem to being going backwards and forwards with posts and not getting any joy so im going to post in here instead of recovery where my sorry tale is.<BR>Im not sure if im meant to be on plan A or B my H has been seeing other woman since June 2000 and i found out at the start please read heartbroken in recovery for full story my problem now is ive spent the last 14 months going on plan A for a week or two then exploding in rage or begging him to save us running down OW and declaring undying love ive been like a woman possesed by the devil at times and sweetness and light at others depending on if i know hes been with her if ive read his cell phone messages or seen things she bought for him (underpants shirts etc) Ive packed his stuff and told him to go twice and then begged him to stay but 2 weeks ago i told him to go and have space to try and work it out since the i have found MB and realised ive made a hash of it big time he still comes to the house and we go out for a drink or a meal and since finding MB ive stopped giving him hassle now i can see ive been sending him to her he has said for months i give him hassle and she dosent but i just thought im his W how can he expect me to approve what is the matter with his brain now i know!!! but what do i do now please help <P>------------------<BR>lizzle

Hi Lizzle,<P>I have read a few of your posts. Can you let me know what you have read from the MB site? Are you familar with the basic concepts, plan a and plan b info? If not, I can send you that info, unless someone can do it sooner. I don't have access to my e-mail(where I store all that good stuff) until I get home. <P>It is important to be informed on the information and tools here. Don't want you to go short handed. These boards are good for support but basic MB knowledge is vital in order to give you and your marriage the best possible support. Along with this there are phone counseling sessions available from Steve and Jennifer. Please take the time to familarize yourself with this info. There are also questionnaires withing those writeups that can help you and your H see where you are and where you can be by applying some of the MB principals. <P>You can start on your own by clicking on the concepts section at the top of this page. <P>I will check up on you when I get home. I usually post in GQII but check here periodically. I have been a regular at MB since Jan this year and learned a lot by reading the books, etc and posting here. It does take a lot of time and energy, right now this is a healing place for me. <P>Take Care, <BR>L. <BR>

Thanx very much for replying and i have done nothing but read info on MB since finding it it has helped a great deal but as i said above i think i messed up before i found the site so am now unsure where to go from here also a phone call for help is not an option as i am in the UK look forward to hearing from you again <P>------------------<BR>lizzle