I've also posted this on D/D ; I'm just looking for feedback. Thanks. The "format" was taken from the forum. WS says she "doesn't want to try to try". She's in very deep w OM, she still claims they're just friends.<P><BR> Dear Beautiful *, <BR>I am writing to you to apologize for my part in creating an environment that helped make a relationship with &^%& possible. I have not always treated you as the cherished person you are to me. I have been unable to consistently show the deep loving and caring feelings I have always had for you. I have not been able to meet your emotional needs, and now there is suffering for these mistakes. <BR>I want, with all of my heart, the chance to prove to you that our relationship can be great. For both of us. I want to continue to work on changing and rebuilding our relationship, with a focus on our happiness together, but I cannot do that until you end your relationship with @#$% completely.<BR>I know our life together can be so much better than it ever was if we can have the chance to work on it and make the necessary changes. We have so much to look forward to as the kids grow up. I hope to share all of those wonderful blessings with you. I want to work on changing and enjoy seeing you happy, but I cannot do that until you end your relationship with @#$% completely. <BR>Until then, I cannot see or talk to you. I can pick up the kids from school and from your mom's, and drop them off where they can be picked up.<BR>Please respect the terms of this separation. I am not doing this to try to "punish" you, only to protect myself from the unhappiness I feel when you continue to see @#$%. As you know I have suffered alot due to the relationship with @#$@ , and I cannot spend time with you knowing that you are with him. It is too painful for me. I love you very much, and really enjoy your company, but I cannot bear to be with you under the circumstances. <BR>When you are able to end your relationship with @#$% , give me a call. <BR>I know our marriage has the potential to be wonderful.I'm so sorry it was so painful for you. I want it to be better than it ever was before, and I believe we can do that together. We have so much worth fighting for. I can't imaging just walking away from it all without truly trying to save it. I want to create a marriage that will be safe from the threat of an affair. I know that if we are able to meet each other's emotional needs that threat will be nonexistent. I love you and ask you, when you can, to give our relationship a chance. <BR>-I want to grow old with you.<BR>-When I said “I DO,” I made a promise in front of God, you, our family and friends for life. <BR>-I want to be your husband, your friend, and your lover.<BR>-I loved you more that life itself while we were together and I continue to do so as I write this. <BR>*, please make the choice to work on our marriage. We had so many blessings, and I still love you now. It is just too painful to spend time you when you are still seeing @#$% .<P>With All My Love,<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by Family Man (edited September 04, 2001).]
