Dear Bgentle:<P>I am sorry to hear that you are struggling in your marriage.<BR>Is your story posted in this forum? How long since <BR>d-day? <BR> <BR>Can I assume that you and your mom have a loving relationship? Does your mom like/love your spouse? This the type of relationship I can speak to.<P>From my point of view, I would be crushed if my child was suffering terrible pain, and I couldn't help. Not intrude, but assist. Even though my DIL's behavior has caused great anguish, I can still appreciate her point of view, thanks to MB, and I think that we will be on better terms again someday.<P>Before you tell your mom, print out some of the MB basic concepts for her to read so that she can support your plan for rebuilding your marriage.<P>Yes, she will experience great sadness, disappointment, and anger when she finds out. She will suffer from feelings of betrayal, and she will want to protect you from hurtful feelings. If you have the heart to do it at this point, let her read about the A from the WS view point. Help her understand about unmet ENs and the WS totally being in a fog. She may hate your H at first for the pain he is causing you, but time brings healing if you work on it.<P>So do I recommend telling your mother? Yes. But do your homework first. Where do you want your relationship with WH to end up? She'll want to know what you want. Educate her about MB principles. Tell her about avoiding LBs to your H while the intense first emotions calm dowm. <P>Let me know how it goes. Take care.<BR>[
