I also posted this in the General Forum, but thought it would be appropriate here too and hope that someone will respond.<P>I am hoping that you can help me understand my WH as he goes through withdrawal. I have read several posts that say withdrawal is "tough", "some of the roughest days", "really hard to not give into the temptation to contact". But what are the symptoms that WS, especially WH, exibited?<BR>My WH has told me, on more than one occasion, that he is breaking contact with OW. I have believed him that he has not been the one to make the contact, but he hasn't refused to talk with her when she calls. <P>We are now one week, to the day, for his last contact, that I know, he has had with her. That was the 1st time he has told her he didn't want her to call him. Before she was the one breaking it off with him, only to continue to call him. <P>I can't figure out the difference in "withdrawal" and "just waiting for him to give in again". He seemed to be depressed this past Sat, but ok again yesterday.<P>How do you really believe they are trying and not judge every move WS makes? I am so afraid of him not being strong enough to resist the temptation to contact her and that I will be so hurt again that I am afraid to let my guard down. But yet I do love him so much and want to believe in him and not question everything he says or does. <P>Is there anything that a BS can do to help the WS get through withdrawal? Any advice on dealing with this timeframe? Please post any suggestions.<P><BR>

Hi I can tell you withdraw from my wifes point of view and how she acts around me. I am the BS. She had a affair 8 years ago. The guy chased her and got her confused. She quit her job but somehow they always kept in contact. She changed jobs towns and everything but the contact continued. I do not know what she wanted but the guy basically blew her off. She had a miscarriage carring his child so this all could have something to do with it. Any how she wanted contact even though she stayed with me. I did not know about MB back then and have done a horrible job meeting her needs. I love her and she loves me but we are so far apart that she started another affair this summer to end our marriage. This is my opinion so I could have her feelings confused. Anyhow I told her I loved her and wanted to stay. This was 2 weeks ago. Her boyfriend went on a 2 week vacation with his girlfriend and just got back yesterday. She was feeling something for me then when she saw him it was back the start. I think in her own way she has to feel strong enough to want to stay with me . It is vary painful she was depressed for the 2 weeks she did not see him. She will not let me meet her needs while he is in the back ground even when she can tell me she loves me more than him. I know she hurts and hurts bad. Adddiction , love I do not know what to call it but it hurts her on the inside to be away from him. Dr. Harleys book surviving a affair is a must read. I hope I helped some stay strong. It isnt fair those of us who need the support and the love have to give it with no return.