Well I mailed the letter on Friday, she rec'd it today. She is NOT happy. She says most women in "her position" are real b*****s and try to take the man for all he's worth. Keep in mind, I really was a giver, very loving. She thinks I should be grateful for the way she's handled things to date, and this letter is inflammatory, provocative, and comes from someone who doesn't appreciate her. My take. She also feels I can "drop the kids off on the curb, just don't involve her mother". <BR>Most people don't welcome change, and this is a change. Plan A suggested that I would give what I could at NO COST. I guess she did some of the things she did because she could. No penalties. Plan B is not a "penalty", but a boundary. Either way, WS is pissed, and it seems like she'll be provoking things because "this is what you want".<P>Y'know, though, in Kung Fu when you are trapped you can often defeat the trap. Know how? By backing away.<P> I would like her to appreciate the reason behind the letter, but I cannot control that.<P>Dan<P>

Well, she's angry that she isn't getting all her own way...you are calling some shots.<P>That is why!!!