Something has peaked my curiosity. I read somewhere on the Harley's site that about three weeks after the discovery of an affair the WS would, I'm not sure of the word, but break a little. BINGO THAT"S WHAT HAPPENED. ALmost three weeks to the day my wife came to and wanted to slow this whole divorce thing down. I was wondering from the more experienced here are there any more almost predictable things that I should be on the look out for? Its been almost a month now since I found out about the affair. Just curious???????

I think that you can expect a roller coaster from here on in, good and bad vibes from your W all the darn time!!!<P>Sorry, but that's what most people seem to experience...and as for a time line, well, it's not predictable, and it's not accurate. Some people say Plan A works after about a year, others a few months. Some go to Plan B then things change for the better, some don't change, and they get divorced.<P>It is a great plan for YOU, and if your wife comes around, great, but the whole thing is about no expectations...it's a survival tactic for us BS's, and WS's who are struggling. <P>I read today somewhere that someone can see the changes for the better in themselves with ALL relationships, well so can I. And it IS a good thing to acknowledge that. IF the WS's come home, well great, but we have to think of this as a process of growth for ourselves primarily.