What does everyone think? Some know my story here's a summary. I found my wife with another man a month ago. Luckily, without knowing, I was planAing since day one then I found this site and have continued greatly. She came to me a few days and said if she's going to do what she's going to do that she's not going to put it off any longer. She is going to move out in two weeks and move in with OM whom she's known for two months. She picked in two weeks because I have a company retreat and she knows I won't be anywhere near for two days. I really don't think I can be at the retreat knowing they are both in our house moving out her stuff. I told her I would take a week of vacation and go see my family the same week. The thing is I'm running out of time to Plan A. She is going to quit her job and work the next week after she moves out. I probably know the answer but should I wait till she moves out to take some vacation so I have every moment to plan A that I possibly can or should I go ahead and leave like I said and let her sit here in an empty house for a week??????????

Hi there,<P>Believe it or not you can still Plan A while separated, although time restricts you...but you will have contact with her, and you will be able to implement this. <P>Plan B is not when they move out, it is when you have decided that you need to not see them to protect your love for them.<P>My h has been gone for over two months, and I was Plan A'ing him in person up until I left the country a week ago, but when he phones, I still try to present the best me there is. Not easy long distance. Mind you, I'm going to Plan B soon.<P>Your w is in a big fog right now...probably leaving you because you actually discovered her, (((((((((poor you))))))))))))), and she can't handle the guilt. So try to keep up your spirits.<P>If you stay during that week you risk annoying the h**l out of her, so think about it very carefully. Me, I don't know what I'd do!!!