I usually post on Divorced/Divorcing. Here are some threads, if you want/need background. <BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/003527.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/003527.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/003657.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/003657.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/003842.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/003842.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/004003.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/004003.html</A> <P>The basics are we're separated, I'm in Plan A and since I see her every day, it's been going as well as possible. I suspect an EA, but haven't confronted yet, because I don't have enough proof. Since she moved out six weeks ago, I've seen nothing of EA guy. I didn't see him much when she was still here- what I mean is, she didn't move out and then immediately shack up with him, or anything. <P>My wife is going to a wedding tomorrow. I'm not invited. Of course, she could have invited me along, but she didn't. I understand it, but the kids don't: I overheard our daughter asking my wife why not once- "well, he doesn't need to go... [bride] is my friend." She's taking the kids to the ceremony, which will be a new-agey thing at the local Renaissance Festival, then bringing them home, and going to the reception at the bride and groom's house without them.<P>Giving the kids baths tonight, our son (sort of working it out in his head) says "Mom, and me, and [daughter] are going to the wedding tomorrow, but you're not going." Daughter, from the tub, says "[EA guy] is going. He knew [bride] a long time ago, even before she had children." <P>If he knew her a long time ago, it was only through my wife- he had no other link to her and has had no other since. He's obviously there as her guest.<P>So, advice needed: am I heading for plan B?<BR>