I too have had a somewhat sucessful plan A. My H has been coming around, even possibly reducing contact with OW (or hiding it better?). <P>Anyway, he has been gone this week and what I noticed is that I have felt better. I miss him - when he calls it is tough - but besides that I really think I might be better off by myself. I am much more active than him - he's always laying around and sleeping. I think he's depressed, but it is a lot his personality as well. Meanwhile, I get bored.<P>We are so different and I might like my life better the way I want it - instead of Plan A for the rest of my life. If you don't go to Plan B, where do you go? <P>Should I leave while I have my chance and find someone more like myself? We don't have children. I want them, he does too, but not now. We are almost 32 - should I really wait around for him to start feeling love for me. And then will I be alone in raising them, just like I am the one that does all the stuff around the house. Won't I just be creating my own prison? How do you talk about these feelings without LBing? <P>He tells me to get some confidence - I have confidence, in myself. None in him.

Did you get help from Steve or Jennifer ?. Plan A is for you and do your best, you go to plan B for your own protection. Protection for not loosing your love for H. Hope some other experience members could help you, I am myself in Plan A.<P>hadi<P>------------------<BR>Give your absolute best such that looking back 10 years from now w/ no regret.