I gave the dreaded plan B letter to my WH on Thursday and he moved out. Since then, he has shown up at 2 of our son's hockey games. After the first time, I wrote him a short note asking him to honor my request not to see him. But there he was again today.<p>What should I do next? It is too painful to see him. Or, should I just tuff it out for the sake of our son?<p>I love going to his games and feel that I should have that right because I'm not the one who walked out on our family and kids!<p>Help!!

Hi, <p>In your plan B letter did you make accmodations for issues dealing with your children? Parents in plan B often do have some contact but it is limited. Just because it is hard for you to see him doesn't mean he can not see your children. Make sure you keep that separate from your interaction with him. <p>For me, plan B allowed communication regarding child visitation, discussions on finances and mail. That lasted 2 weeks on the outside. Guess I was not meeting his needs anymore and he did not like that. Hmmmph..... but it sure took stress of my shoulder. Then he came back..... oh well, went back to square 1 with a twist and its been a adjustment of sorts ever since. <p>Take Care,
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Thanks Orchid,<p>I probably broke a Plan B rule but I sent him an e-mail saying that I didn't care if he came to the games. I guess I was thinking Plan B meant absolutely no contact. I want to do this right because I want him home!<p>I have been in Plan A for 8 months and after 3 rounds, I can't do it anymore! I even broke down and called the OW this time. Good new is that she said she'd been telling him for 2 months that it's over and they will never have anything long term.<p>This just made him want to try harder to win her back! Maybe that's her plan, but she seemed very civil on the phone and we talked for over an hour. She has also accepted a job several states away.<p>I don't know, I just wish I could see into the future so I knew what to do! Do I keep trying or just file and stop the pain? Not that filing would stop the pain, but then maybe I could move on with my life. But wait, I don't want to do that without him! So Frustrating!!!<p>Le