My husband and I have been separated for 6 weeks now, living in two different cities. I offered to bring the kids down for Thanksgiving so he could spend time with them. I had already made separate living arrangements for myself, however, he insisted that I stay there at the house with him.<p>Well, I am going up again this weekend, and sent him an e-mail to ask if he wanted the living arrangements as they were for Thanksgiving or did he want me to do something different? he didn't respond, I called him three times before he returned my call. He said he wasn't sure if he wanted me to spend the night this time because he experienced a deep depression after we left, that he didn't want to go through again.<p>Now I'm getting discouraged, because I plan on moving back for the kids to be closer to their dad, and for us to work on us, but his indecisive, elusive behavior has me worried and scared, any thoughts?

SEBREA,
Do not get discourage and never take what H say personally and try to "read" what H wants. He is in the deep fog right now and babble a lot and no logic to it. Let see ...
<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>He said he wasn't sure if he wanted me to spend the night this time because he experienced a deep depression after we left, that he didn't want to go through again.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Does it make sense ?, no, if let you guys go make him D, why not ask you to stay for good ?.<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>Now I'm getting discouraged, because I plan on moving back for the kids to be closer to their dad, and for us to work on us, but his indecisive, elusive behavior has me worried and scared, any thoughts?</strong><hr></blockquote>
Play fogese to him and get what you want. Again my wife did me a favor by coming back and say "I live here too". Legally I can't do anthything and I found out later this is the best favor in MB she did for me. I do not think H could do anyhing if you show up w/ your kids and belonging and move back in.<p>Question for you, does M problem involve A ? I did not see it in your threads. It seems that there is A involve.<p>[ December 04, 2001: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>

thanks redhat! he has not admitted to an affair, and i don't know of who this person is. i know many of you are fully aware that there is someone else. how did you find out for sure? i know you can look at the "signs" but how do you know for certain?

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by SEBREA:
<strong>thanks redhat! he has not admitted to an affair, and i don't know of who this person is. i know many of you are fully aware that there is someone else. how did you find out for sure? i know you can look at the "signs" but how do you know for certain?</strong><hr></blockquote>
No thief will confess even with evidence in front of them !!! LMAO !!!. You start learn how to snoop or pay someone to sleuth !. The best way for you is moving in !. H tries to push you out could be that he has to "plan" to have A. If you have time, rent a car put a wigs be a gumshoes [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] , catch H by surprise. However never, never confront H about it ... just puts it in the back pocket and do plan A. If A still continues then you need to expose it to public. You have to ask yourself, do you need to know or just assume the worst then work on plan A ?.