Telling my WW that I need some time and space?<p>I don't want to end the marriage but I could use some to be honest (just for myself).

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Getting very tired:
<strong>Telling my WW that I need some time and space?<p>I don't want to end the marriage but I could use some to be honest (just for myself).</strong><hr></blockquote><p>It depends how she is taking it. Most WW understand this since they use it on us .... LOL !!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] . However as a reminder, if you still want this M, you know that you have no right on time and space unless if you are really hurting and need to take a break. If you do, take a mini vacation (have a return date) not a break (no date of return). You could be honest to let her know that you are hurting but no demand & play out her guilt.

Explain this statement please<p>You could be honest to let her know that you are hurting but no demand & play out her guilt.<p>
Yes I am hurting but explain last part of statement.

You could let her know that her actions hurt you much but short on demanding/expecting her to change. Just like if you talk how much you are hurting to your freind & you are expecting nothing from it but ear to lend. Stop talking if she is feeling uncomfortable or start feeling guilty about it. Just say, I just want you to be aware and thank you for listening and change the subject. Never bring this topic again unless asked for. I did this w/ my WW to make sure that she knows I am not enabling her A and her action hurt deep into my bone. Also I only do it one time to make a point, never repeat it.<p>W/ no demand you are not LB, also if she say stop, you have to stop. Playing her guilt is a personnal choice, not an LB but interfering with A's natural death. I would not like my WW come back to me because of pity or guilt. She made a personnal choice to have an A, she has to make the same personnal choice to come home. IMVHO, A has to die naturally for M to be rebuild completely and better.