Could someone out there give me input regarding what plan A specifically should look like? I think I have been making strides in attempting not to LB and in general and I can see that my husband, while still in his fog, is getting more confused about my behavior and his actions (which is good). But, what kind of things has anyone out there specifically found helpful...do you tell them you still love them, write notes, or just make every attempt to avoid LBs? I ask because on the one hand, he hasn't committed to counseling but on the otherhand, I know one of his ENs is to feel appreciated and loved but I'm afraid that if I should do anything "positive" and loving in addition to avoiding LBs, it will push him away because the OW is meeting those needs. The good thing is that I have been really trying to focus on my weaknesses but I want to make sure I'm covering all my bases. <p>Please help! Thanks.

<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: Bunny ]</p>

My Life, <p>Your reply was "right on the money" and just what I was looking for. Definitely a keeper and I will keep you abreast of how things are going.<p>Thanks for taking the time to be specific yet encouraging me in addition everything else to remember to focus on myself and my issues.<p>Happy New Year!

Hi, <p>Here is some plan A info: <p> http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html <p>Hope this helps. <p>L.