Thanks to all the quick posts I received. Redhat, props to you for the heads up advice and everyone else.<p>Here's the skinny. WS came over tonight to discuss. As of 3:00 pm, I was ready to either Plan B or Plan D. I was done and not willing to go on any further.<p>WS came over and thanks to my friend Valium, was able to allow her to start first. She was a bit teary and said that her last two months with OM she slowly realized that she wasn't in love with him. He met some EN's but basically was a white trash dope smoking piece of 'it. Sheesh, that hurts.<p>Anyway, she said that she would call him this evening and end it that it was something she had tried a few weeks ago but he never really said much. I asked what would make me buy into the whole thing. She said that she would do whatever it took to convince me.<p>At my request, she gave me cell phone password, email password and all else I requested. After hearing her out, the common themes emerged--withdrawal, not wanting to give up on our M but still "in the fog" (our words not hers). <p>Keep in mind, I was ready to Plan B/Plan D. The Plan B letter was in the cabinet ready to hand out. After some comments by me basically saying why should I trust you again, she said, what do you have to lose? I only allowed another 30 days, which is the remainder of the 90 day agreement. <p>She started on SAA last night and is committed to finishing it. Told her that I'm reluctanct to be celebratory about our much anticipated anniversary next week, but she said it would be really nice if we spent the day together.<p>Ok, I'm willing to pLan A until the end of the month. That's it. Then we go straight to Plan D. I don't think it will come to that. OM is main reason for her lousy behavior the past 2 years. Why a successful woman would get involved with a guy who has no ambition and smokes weed all the time I have no clue. Neither does she.<p>Updates coming. God bless,<p>Guido

guido,
Could you share some of those valium ? I am kind of low right now ... LMAO [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] !!!. Yes, sometime we need med to calm us down, specially crucial time.<p>Anyway, she said that she would call him this evening and end it that it was something she had tried a few weeks ago but he never really said much. I asked what would make me buy into the whole thing. She said that she would do whatever it took to convince me.<p>At my request, she gave me cell phone password, email password and all else I requested. After hearing her out, the common themes emerged--withdrawal, not wanting to give up on our M but still "in the fog" (our words not hers).
Yes, you need to protect yourself and her weakness too. If she complaint about too controling you could give up yours too. You should mention about no contact letter and ask her to read SAA part on how A should end.<p>Keep in mind, I was ready to Plan B/Plan D. The Plan B letter was in the cabinet ready to hand out. After some comments by me basically saying why should I trust you again, she said, what do you have to lose? I only allowed another 30 days, which is the remainder of the 90 day agreement.
What a fogese talk but she draw her own line not yours. If she fails you could move on with plan B.<p>She started on SAA last night and is committed to finishing it. Told her that I'm reluctanct to be celebratory about our much anticipated anniversary next week, but she said it would be really nice if we spent the day together.
You should, spend a major buck$, show it that you care. Read my reply to you on your post about anniv. Make her talk to OM about it and LB'ed there not to you. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Ok, I'm willing to pLan A until the end of the month. That's it. Then we go straight to Plan D. I don't think it will come to that. OM is main reason for her lousy behavior the past 2 years. Why a successful woman would get involved with a guy who has no ambition and smokes weed all the time I have no clue. Neither does she.
Why you keep setting yourself up for major blow up ? Guido, do not say thing that you have to carry it. A is probably on its last breath, hang in there a little longer. She will convinced herself that you are the better choice. I would not go to plan D, you have worked hard on plan A ... give time to plan B, then you could move on. It is not plan D, it is plan C ... move on (Dv) and never look back (plan B forever). About the weed smoking OM, you know EN(s) ... figure out which EN(s) that your W clings to ?. Or it is your angry outburst drive her out ?. If it is, you better seek conseling on the anger management and ask your W to be your Jimmeny Cricket to help out.

Hi G,<p>progress!?!? Looks like there might be some. Don't drop everything but if you are willing to take her back then let her know that, but she must come back for respect of you and the family.<p>Acknowledge this progress but don't make any life altering plans and don't celebrate to quickly. <p>I am glad to hear of some progress. <p>L.

Hiya G,<p>How are you doing?<p>L.