Hello Once Again,
Plan A is OK, as a mater of fact I have been doing it for about 10 months, if not longer. However it is very diffacult to do when my H claims there is no A, or OP what so ever. How do I plan A my H, when I smell perfume on his sweat shirt he wore to work the very same day, as well as tiny sparkle's from where OW makeup rubbed off.
Oh but of course that isn't what it looks like after all, I work with all men, in constrution, and Im always home except for my volunteer fire dept meetings, and calls I go on. No matter what I find, he refuse's to admit to it. So I try, and try to keep up plan A. Of course something always pops up that just breaks my heart, and I can nolonger hide my pain. I cry in the shower, in our room, anywhere but in front of him. He gets very angry if I do. What does he do when he hears me, get this he will lower the volume on the TV, just to hear me cry. H will never ask me why Im crying, or console me. H acts as if it never happened. By doing plan A I feel I am giving him time to continue his A. H is very careful, he does not jump into anything. We dated for 6 years before we married. H didn't want to get married, and then get divorced, he had to be sure. What a joke. About a year and a half ago, he started to pull away from me, and the girls. H would come home from work, and nolonger talk, and play with me while we made dinner together. Instead he would sit at the diningroom table with his hands under his chin, an elbows on the table. He wouldn't say a word, when I would try to get close he would move away. When he would tell me something about where he had been he could not look me in the eye, he would look up or to the left all the time. He would sit, and broud, or verything I have been doing for the last 10 years was no longer any good. He would constantly insult me. Then when I bean confronting him about having an A, and his behaivor. He was packing, and ready to walk out the door. He Started talking about buying a new pick up truck, Yes the one he had was old and ugly, but he only needed it to drive to constrution sights. We always took the SUV, when we went anywhere. a few days after mentioning it to me, car dealers from all around our area started senting him offers, you know flyer's, and fake checks that you put toward your new auto. How did al of these dealers get his name and address, but how in the world did they know he was in the market so fast. Here is my other question. How do you know when an A has ended? My H no longer acts like this, he comes home happy, he is all over me all the time. He told me to make arragments to go away to a couples only resort for our anniversary, in Feb. He gave me a tennis braclet, which he designed himself, and had our jeweler make it, believe me it is spectacular. You see for the last 2 years I had been getting boring gifts, gone were the romantic gifts I had always gotten in the past, that is until 2 years ago, until my Bday last month, and also on Xmas. The one thing that hasn't returned is the greeting card, he use to give me 2, 1 funny, and 1 serouise. He would write how much he loved me, and wanted me, ect... until he ran out of room. That ended 2 years ago, I began getting one card, signed Love H (name). He even gave me the exact same Bday card this year as he did last year. How that hurt. As for Xmas NO CARD, we always exchanged Xmas cards, and I gave him one, and he still didn't bother to get me one. When I complain about him nolonger writing anything in the cards, H says he's not good at writing, and it's too much of a hassle anymore, says he always had to carry around a dictionary. Untrue, to me it's almost as if he doesn't want to put his feeling's or love for me in writing. He tells me he loves me, we talk about why we are together, how we make each other feel, future events, ect... H seems to be his old self except for a few thing's some I've mentioned. So you would think he is not having an A anylonger, that is until I do the laundry, or find, something in our home or trucks that isn't mine, but yet must belong to a female. How do you know if plan A is working, when you are still finding clues. I don't know how much more I can take. I turned down a 1 year modeling contract with a well known angency in New York, because he said if I took it then we might as well just get divorced now, instead of going thru all the misery. You'll never be home, and I don't like the idea of it. HELP! Am I a Fool for trying to save my marriage, I have had many offers from men, but I refuse, my love is for one man, and one man only. The man the Lord joined together, until death do us part, or if the kids start to be affected by it.
Thank you all for listening, I haven't anyone to talk to at all, like I said I haven't any family left, and only 2 friends, who are to busy themselves.<p>
Peace and Happiness
I give you my prayer
for a brighter tomarrow,
and a joyful New Year.
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