On monday, my H told me that it was not going to work, he was not willing to give up his friendship with OW and as soon as he had money would file for divorce. I continued to Plan A.<p>The next day, yesterday, he did a complete turnaround. Came clean with everything that he had done and was feeling guilty about, told me that he definitely wanted to give it a shot and even asked me to move back in because he felt that it would not work if we were not living as H and W.<p>I want to go home more than anything right now, but am not sure what to do, I am scared, excited and nervous at the same time. I am completely thrilled with the fact that he is finally being honest, but still do not want to get my hopes up.

Dear Emerald,<p>It must be wonderful to have your H ask you to come back to live with him, unfortunately, it comes on the heels (one day later) of his insistance that he would not give up his friendship with this OW. <p>I think that he should be willing to show some evidence of his sincerity before you put yourself in that vulnerable position again. Let him know it is a goal you both should work towards. Set up some ground rules together. One of those rules should be that he does not see, talk to or associate in any way with the OW. <p>Go out together. Talk frequently. Insist that you attend counseling together. Take those baby steps, test the waters, but even then know there are no garuntees. Perhaps, I am a bit jaded, but even if you find yourself in his arms in your own home, make sure the guidelines for his and your behavior are in place and that disregard for them has consequences. Best wishes.<p>Persephone

emerald,<p>Be cautious. You have to put down your term for working on M, do not take WS too early. It is not a demand, just lay it out there as a fact that this is what you think that will help you out to heal.
Get conseling w/ MB if you could afford it, otherwise follow SAA to the t's. The road to recovery is very narrow. Make sure H read SAA also and work w/ MB principal.
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