I have posted several messages and it seems that either I have a
unique situation, or I am doing something wrong, I am WS betrayed
spouse asked me to move out of house and issued restraining order
we go to court on that next week, she has not yet filed for divorce
which I know is a formality at this point. I met this woman on the
internet 3 weeks ago and agreed to meet she was married as well,
we were intimate and wife found about it last week, all the emails
were found BS has said she wants a divorce and I cant communicate
with her which is killing me because of restraining order. I have found
an apartment and am scheduled to move tomorrow, it seems most of
the posts on here I really love my wife and have hurt her very bad,
we also go to the same church and sing in the choir for which I am a
musician, that is hard as well to see her. Any advice would be
appreciated.

can you get her to this website? that would help..
good luck.

needing advice,
RO based on what ?. Are you out of the house already ?.<p>Write no contact email, send one by mail and show it to your wife. Write a plan A letter and give it to her. States your remorse and all the reason why she should beleive that you love her ... past memory. Tell her your are willing to do anything to make it right ....<p>Meanwhile, lean about MB, follow the link on my sig. , read HNHN & SAA<p>Good luck. You reap the seed that you've planted it.<p>[ January 18, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>

Redhat - What is a plan A letter? [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Legacy:
<strong>Redhat - What is a plan A letter? [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] </strong><hr></blockquote>
WAT wrote one. Basically a recap of your feeling toward WS and explain what you are going to do. Apologize for the deed that you do contributing to the environment lead to A. List all the notable memories in your M and why you want her. Promise her the changes your are going to do. No LB.<p>It won't change your WS mind but it plan a seed and also it help to recap what you wanted to say to WS at once.

thanks for the explanation of plan a letter, I think it was suggested to me at one point... I am going to send one... I am sooooo exhasuted as my h waffles back and forth- he says he is trying to break it off, becausde he knows that is the right thing to do, but that is not what he wants to do... so I threatened no contact... yes, lb. I sd, well, if you can't cut her out, we can't talk, or see each other, of have sf, all of which has been going on... oops... sorry to mess up your thread..... Just start plan a... if will help... I know that... because I got to the above point, including from the point of definite divorce by my ws... to waffle waffle...
So, anyway, good luck... I am also going to write plan a letter, would be glad to see yours posted... here! HONEY [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

honey,<p>I wrote one but I copied it from WAT, and here is the link.

Redhat<p>What was the outcome when you delivered the letter? I am continplating sending a Plan A letter but not sure if the results will backfire in my face.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by digitalslavery:
<strong>Redhat<p>What was the outcome when you delivered the letter? I am continplating sending a Plan A letter but not sure if the results will backfire in my face.</strong><hr></blockquote>
I am sorry you have to chase me like this. I am lurked on your post but it seems that others has taken care of you. I post directly to you on your thread later.<p>About plan A letter, I think WAT started it and it not offical MB sugestion. Plan A letter is like a love note to your W. No response from my WW but she read it and I am planting a seed for her to come back home safely. It won't bring back your spouse but you are planting a seed for you to do "a doormat plan A". IMVHO. If one of the issue of you M is WS's questioning about your love then plan A is the best place to start.<p>No expectation, not clingy but states the love and commitment.<p>Good luck.