I am new to doing this type of thing. My husband of 22+ years moved out 2 weeks ago. He gave virtually no warning just told me on New Year's Day that he was done, he wanted a divorce. We have 2 boys (13 & 16) and we are all devastated. I want us to pursue counseling to see if their is hope for our future. I am always hopeful and I am a solutions oriented person. I feel he is running away because he doesn't know what else to do. He had an affair about 5 years ago that was very short lived (he moved out for about 3 days) then 18 months ago he renewed the affair (for about 2 months) He moved out for about 3 weeks and then ended the affair and moved back. We did counseling for about 6 months with a counselor that was not a good fit. And we were too scared to pursue another counselor. Now we are at an impasse. I believe that anything is possible if you work hard enough. He as agreed to attend "decisions Counseling" with me. We start next week. My entire life is in limbo while I wait for him to determine my future (how melodramtic that sounds). I have read a variety of books and internet things, most tell me that we can work on this. Sometimes I have hope, other times I am devasted. Any advice??

Bailee,<p>Get conseling from MB. Call first thing Tuesday for appointment. You do not want to get any conselor that did not use MB.<p>Welcome to MB. Follow the link on my signature, you will find a lot of material that will help you out. Post back here for specific question or to vent.