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inappropriate relationship #460790 01/25/02 09:24 AM
Joined: Jan 2002 Posts: 1 E eyecant_takeit Junior Member
eyecant_takeit Junior Member E Joined: Jan 2002 Posts: 1	my WS has been having an EA with a co-worker for 6mo. we separated oct 27 over many other things, but for me, this was the major LB. She wanted to "find herself". A lot of her un happiness stems from her childhood sexual abuse, which was triggered in the spring of 2001. Although I have been aware of how much it affected her, she has been in denial until after we separated. (she is now in councelling). The problem now is that she still spends a lot of time talking with him, and denies it to "spare my feelings". I have been Plan Aing, and have gotten good results. How do I approach this subject w/o LBing her? I am quickly approaching plan B time, as the lying has drained my respect for her.<p>me, BS 40, living w 3 D, 2,5,6 WS 30

Re: inappropriate relationship #460791 01/25/02 10:02 AM
Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,733 Northern California R redhat Member
redhat Member R Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,733 Northern California	eyecant_takeit,<p>Unfortunately, as long as there is a contact & pass beyond withdrawal you still have to plan A. Review your plan A, check it against the Plan A missapplication by Distress. For now you hold on to that info and keep gathering it. Tune up your plan A, i.e try to "talk" to her and be good listener. Do not confront her, it no use at this point. This LB$ drainage is normal b/c of snooping. Do not snoop if you know the answer and only snoop it once in a while to check it out.<p>Good luck.

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