OK here is a quick overview. Husband told me last week he is in love with someone else. I went to my parents house. He has said that I could come back if we could be just roomates and friends while he pursued this other woman. I have 3 children and one on the way so I said yes. Can plan A still work in this situation or am I just fooling myself? I have a session scheduled for tommorow with Jennifer but just wanting input tonight. Thank you for any help.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by lorisue:
<strong>OK here is a quick overview. Husband told me last week he is in love with someone else. I went to my parents house. He has said that I could come back if we could be just roomates and friends while he pursued this other woman. I have 3 children and one on the way so I said yes. Can plan A still work in this situation or am I just fooling myself? I have a session scheduled for tommorow with Jennifer but just wanting input tonight. Thank you for any help.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>You did the right thing. It will be hard but you have to wait until A dies. Learn as much as you can about MB, it will save you some $ and make your progress faster w/ Jennifer. At least go through basic concept. Read WAT's Quick Start Guide for BS. Good luck.<p>[ January 31, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>

Hi lorisue,<p>First let me say that you have come to the right place, its unfortuante that we all have come here, but there is great strenght in numbers.<p>Secondly never forget that you are not alone. There are many of us, we are here to listen/help/inspire, it may seem as if you have lost a single partner, but you have gained a fortress of family by joining us.<p>Third start reading/writing/listening here, Redhat has some of the best articles that you can find here on the MB site, read them, and then read them again. They will help comfort you.<p>Hearing stories like yours makes me feel like I have nothing to complain/rave/vent about, keep your chin up, your children need you and they can help you pass the days when everything else seems listless. Plan A will be very effective for you if remeber some very key points:<p>

• Plan A is for YOU - use this time to read and start growing, IT TAKES TIME<p>Keep your self in shape, mentally and physically, you will need to find ways of venting your frustration/anger/emotions, exercising will help, so will eating and sleeping.(duh) [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Dont expect too much, often times people hope for immeadiate results, (myself included at one point, thanks to Redhat for the reminder to calm down.) [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] ~<p>

<p>I know its not easy, but there are many things that we all must deal with, and if it was easy what would the point be? Remember that no matter what you will walk away from this a winner, you will have the knowledge/power/tools that you can change your life, and you will!<p>Stay strong and keep posting.