Quick post today, most of you are probablly like thank god, there goes digitalslavery ranting and writng a book again! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] ~<p>First of all today I picked up my S around 10am and in the process asked if WW would be interested in coming by before she had work so we could all hang out together, she said yes but she had to do some stuff today so if I could pick her up around 3 that would be cool.<p>All day I am telling myself be cool fool, no LBing and dont ask about A. I was cool, played everything like it was no big deal, which actually is somewhat of the truth, she actually said that she felt comfortable talking about somethings if I did. When I asked what she wanted to talk about she of course gave me the I still want to be friends, and I told her I knew, I told her that I wanted her to start feeling good about herself and in no way was I wanting to interfere with her and the OM, but that I would like to be good friends, I also told her that since I made a promise to her when we got married I had decided that I was going to try and fufill that promise untill our marriage had dissolved. <p>I was just telling her matter of factly about it, she seemed to notice that I wasn't depressed or unhappy, which seemed to throw her off a bit. I also told her that I was not going to ask her any questions about whats going on, but if she wanted to talk about it I would be willing to listen.<p>We parted ways on a good vibe when I dropped her off for work, a few hours later she called me and asked if I wanted to pick up a copy of a movie that just went on sale, I would like to think that she is starting to notice a change. That phone call seems pretty odd considering that she has not replied to any of my emails, or even bothered to call me since she moved. I like to think its progress, I feel great!<p>Ok thats all. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Sounds encouraging, but remember, you are only a few weeks after D-day.<p>Continue to play it cool. Plan A, Plan A, Plan A. Don't demand, talk about relationship or relationship with OM.<p>I'd also not rush anything like the checking accounts etc. Unless you have to for your protection. It's like the opposite of trying to pull them back in the marriage - you're puching them out. Let them make up their own minds and a few weeks is not enough time for your W to be making any life changing decisions.<p>Remember - time is on your side. <p>Get your support system(friends, family, counselor, God) in place for the low times. And it's good that you're reading and working on yourself in Plan A. You can fill out the EN and LB questionaire as if you were your wife and then start trying to meet EN's and stop all LBs. <p>Monitor your love units. Keeping a journal helps - it helps to see if anything changes in your wife and it's a good release for you and it can document how you've grown as well.<p>Make sure you have enough time with your 17 mo. old so that you can continue to bond, plus a court would look to see if you were still attempting to be a part of his life when determining child custody (not that this will necessarily get that far - just an FYI).<p>Keep posting. K