I feel alot stronger today, I dont feel that the end of the world is near. I know that I still have many things to work on, but today I really felt that I would be ok regardless of whether she wants to stay with OM or not. <p>I have finally come to understood what Plan A is, now if I can continue to exersice patience and good judgment for a few more months . . .<p>just thought it would be good to share a moment of enlightenment.

I am glad you understand Plan A. For me it is the hardest thing I have ever done. I get so mad at WH, but I know yelling, crying etc. is a LB. Is it hard for you to continue it in the face of painful behavior on WS part? How do you cope?

Digitalslavery (love that name), [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>It's so nice to see this bit of enlightenment from you. Did you see my book review on the GQII board - you might find the book Hope For The Separated by Gary Chapman helpful if you haven't already read it.<p>I wish you continued success in your personal healing and recovery!<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Is it hard for you to continue it in the face of painful behavior on WS part? How do you cope? <hr></blockquote><p>I think I may have gotton lucky with my WW having an A, well not really lucky, although she continues to believe that the OM is her "soul mate" she doesn't act too wierd all the time, also she is living with OM so I dont have to see her all the time, I think that helps, being seperated, its not easy but it does help, I can think about me. I can also think about the pros and cons of this situation, right now i see alot of pros to letting her go, I am still early in the game. <p>I can cope because of MB! seriously this site has saved me. I have been reading everything I can, since I have a better idea whats going on than she does, it gives me a sense of control about my life. I dont feel like I am sitting on the couch day and night waiting for the doorbell to ring anymore. <p>breath, relax, move forward . . . .