It is comforting to get complement from
NSR [img]images/icons/blush.gif" border="0[/img] . Marissa, have you print out LBQ and ENQ ?. Fill it out on the behalf of
your H. Guess the best you can ... the order is not important ... as long you could hit the top 5. Think what made him mad and ... concentrate on what H said or complaint ... those are the list of your plan A. Then design action plan to do it.<p>Just nosey, why graduation is important ?.<p>Here is Harley's word ...<p>As it turns out, in every affair there is a way to adequately compensate the offended spouse that is good for the offender and good for the marriage. At first, the offended spouse may not want to be compensated. He or she may try to get as far away from the offender as possible to avoid further pain. But if the spouse asks for forgiveness along with a willingness to compensate, the offended spouse is usually willing to entertain the proposal. <p>...<p>But in most cases, neither spouse is meeting the other's needs prior to the affair. The reason that there were not two affairs is often a lack of opportunity for the offended spouse. And sometimes when there is that opportunity, there actually are two affairs. <p>The point I'm making is that in most cases both the offending and offended spouses' emotional needs were not being met by each other prior to the affair. One compensation for the affair, therefore, is for the offending spouse to learn to meet the emotional needs of the offended spouse. But if I can also motivate the offended spouse to do something that should have been done all along, meet the offending spouse's emotional needs, the arrangement seems more fair to the offending spouse. There is not only compensation for the affair, but the conditions that created the affair (unmet emotional needs) are removed. The marriage is restored and affair-proofed. <p>...<p>Hope it helps -RH-
