Hi Everyone,
(sorry, this is long & rambling)
My spouse and I separated in Dec 2001. He moved to his parents house, claiming he felt some time apart would be a good thing. I tried to convince him to come back, but I handled it really badly and I know now that I just drove him further away.
In Jan 2002, I found emails that suggested he was having an affair with a woman he works with, loving emails, but no sexual content. Obviously, I went mad when I found out. He denied it, of course and still does. He has told me in the last couple of weeks that he is involved with this woman, but it only became serious after he left.
I have filed for divorce, but don't want to divorce at all, he claims it would be the best thing then things can, 'get back to normal'.
Over the last two weeks, his attitude towards me has changed. He phones nearly everday, always saying it is about our son, but then tries to talk to me about all kinds of things. He slipped up a couple of times, calling me honey. He has been offering to babysit a lot, which he would not do before, but this means he has to come to the house, which he did not want to do either. I am not really comfortable with this, because I received a letter from his solicitor saying that he did not want to talk to me, only to contact each other by email & text and then only about our son, so I have not been contacting him. He is the one who maintains the contact, really. I always try to keep the conversations short, but he tries to continue them . I am not cold towards him, but try to keep a distance. He has not collected his belongings, just some clothes, even though I have asked him to several times.
I feel as though I don't know whether to see if we can try again or not. I am scared of rejection again. I know that he spends a lot of time with this woman, obviously they work together and I think he spends every other weekend with her. I cannot compete with that.
I really am in a state of confusion. I am suspicious of his behaviour, because he is suddenly so much friendlier....
Any advice?<p>Mag