Well I have been seperated for about 3 months now. I found my wife was having an affair with another man. When I found out, she confronted the other man and told him she didn't want to see or talk to him anymore. A week later she moved out. I think she has gone back to him or to someone because she is so secretive about what she is doing. She was in withdrawl for about 6 weeks but I started seeing some signs of hope in our communication. I was doing plan A and things started to get a little better but I think that is because she still had plans for a divorce. We had good communicatin for about a week until I recieved the divorce Papers. Well after I recieved papers, I switched to plan B and didn't talk to her or contact her for a week. She tried to contact me several time but I did not respond to any of her attempts. She then made an excuse to see the dogs as a reason to come over. When I seen her I told here these 3 things. I said this as loving and kind as I possibly could but I think I made the point very clear.
A: if she wanted to talk about the marriage and work it out or how we can put it back together, then I would be all ears. and I would love to do that.
B: If she wanted to talk about the divorce and how to split things up, than she has set the rules for that. She would have to talk to her attorney and have her attorney talk to mine.
C: She said she wanted to stay friends and I said that I didn't think I could do that. That would hurt too much to see here with someone else or be with someone else.
She left that day very emotional and crying. I think that she realy understood what she had done. I had to talk to her yesterday about the taxes and we had a small conversation and easter came up. She said she was not doing anything so I asked her to go to church with me for easter sunday. She said "YES, I would like that very much". In such a way that she seemed excited about it. I ended up speaking with here again later last night and she said she still thinks that divorce is what is best. She went on to tell me how she is having difficulty with being alone and sleeping alone etc but she thinks that right now divorce is what is best but she still want's me in her life as a friend. I don't know if I can do that. I love my wife very much and need help trying to figure out what is the best thing to do.<p>HEEEEEEEEEEELP <p>Dynoman. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]
