My WW told me on Wednesday that she is going to stop her PA, but she couldn't cut things off completely - she still wants to see him sometimes in public places. But definitely no going over to his house. Then last night...<p>She went out at 10:00 last night to get groceries for a guest we just found out was coming today. As soon as she pulled out of the driveway, my cell phone rang - it was from OM's cell phone. I answered, and I could hear him talking to my W! She had called him, and somehow his cell phone had called me, so I'm now listening to his end of their conversation. And he ends up with this "Ok, but we'll have to make it a quick one. We're famous for that... I'll be here... I'll be here". So, like an idiot, I hop in my car and catch up to her just as she's coming out of Safeway. She denies that she is going to see him (although she does admit to a secret cell phone...) and we both drive away and haven't spoken since. <p>She emailed me this am, telling me emphatically that she was not going to see him. I'm rather skeptical. So here's my question: is it a LB to hold her to her commitment? Should I have just ignored the call?<p>Thanks.

I would think you did absolutely the correct thing.
It sounded like your wife was going to meet him for a quick sexual encounter. In addition, she had promised you that she would not contact him. Why would any husband bury his head in the sand and let his wife
have possible sex with the OM. You did absolutely the correct thing. The problem of course is that she is lying while she should be working to regain your trust. I suppose you could hire a PI to make sure but it seems you already know the answer. I wish you luck.

Baffled,
Tough one...
From a personal perspective, I would say that you did the right thing. She is not being straight with you, but then again, how many WSs really are???<p>By the way, did she attack you for listening in on her calls? My WW would have jumped on me like you wouldn't believe... Even though it is by accident.<p>
From an advice-giver perspective, maybe it would have been better handled to take the high-handed approach and waited until she got home and asked her if she is being totally honest with you. I do realize that this would take someone with superhuman abilities to hold to. It is not easy.<p>I think the key is though that you should be focusing on yourself and Plan A. We can't expect to go through this flawlessly, but at the same time, I've seen that I have created some LBing hurdles that took (her) a long time to get over. <p>Just some thoughts...the real key is to hang in there!<p>Sweden