HI there I have decided that i need to let my H know of my intention to let him go by way of a letter. More details on this are on the general discussion board but as tis something i want to do today am posting it on some other places on here to get some feedback.<p>I was also going to include my wedding ring in with it something along the lines of this what are your thoughts??<p>Dear H
I have decided that the time has now come to let you go.
We no longer have a relationship together & the person you are at the moment is not the guy I have been married to, I do have a little bit of love left for you but I realise that it is now fading fast for me & I am not in any way attracted to this person you currently are.<p>Be by yourself & enjoy your life & if you fall down along the way you only have yourself to blame I will not be responsible for that any longer.<p>I am enclosing my wedding ring it once meant such a lot to me but I can no longer keep it.
Take care & b happy
W
Any helpful comments you have would b most helpful <p>
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You gotta be kidding! You mean that your husband doesn't deserve actually hearing from your own mouth. Sounds to me like you doin't have the guts to face him!<p>Sorry, but if you want my opinion. YOu owe it to this man that you have committed your life to, to at least tell him in person, face to face how you feel. And PLEASE, be much much more gentle. <p>It is very hard to be left behind. Trust me, I've been left for OW. At least have the decency and compassion to tell him one-on-one.

no you have got it all wrong! I am the BS & am at the end of my rope, he doesn't want me around I have the guts to tell him to his face all right but I know he wont take it in & an argument will start. Sorry if I confused you....

is this supposed to be a sound plan A?<p>i don't know what to do with my WW either but that sure sounds alot to me like LB. and i think iv'e been doing plenty of that myself lately. if it'll make it easier for you to let him go by doing it then i say sure go ahead, but it sounds like your just giving in to what he wants anyway.<p>don't let frustration dictate what your course of action should be, and definitely don't lower yourself to do things that you may view as underhanded or cowardly later. if argument ensues then so be it, at least you can feel you did the right thing and let him know face to face that you also are giving up on the marriage. if he's the cause for all of this anyway it probably wont affect him at all- if he's behaving as heartless as my WW has been that is.<p>"to thine own self be true"