Hello all! I have been here before, but only have been lurking for a while.<p>I am a BS/WS. Currently waiting on my WH to make up his mind on whether he wants to work on our marriage or not. My story is too long/complicated to post again, so I'll try to keep things short. <p>I still love my H! With all of my heart. Sometimes I don't know how, but I still do and I want to do anything to make our marriage succeed! WH is currently living with his parents (H was living with OW, but moved out week after Easter with convincing from me). I was in relationship, but ended that in February. So, we have both been in a mess, but I believe my head is finally on straight this time! I pray! <p>Anyhow, I live in our home with daughter and son. WH comes to visit almost everyday. Stays late on weekends, even has spent the night 2x, but has slept in my sons bed. Won't tell me he loves me. My H says he is not sure what love is, doesn't know if he ever loved me...I believe that he is still in the fog. He is confused, believe me I know what it's like to be confused when 2 people are involved.<p>Well, I am doing my best to Plan A sincerely, and so much has improved, but I do have my downfalls. I allow myself to become emotionally attached to him again, and when H pulls away, I am hurt again! I need adivse on how to gain my H's love without hurting myself/setting myself up again for a big crash!!! I don't believe that either one of us or our kids can make it thru another separation without major damage. We all have been thru so much.<p>My PA/EA with other man is totally ended. WH still communicates with OW, but I don't believe he sees her. He won't move his furniture out of the house they shared. He just avoids her altogether, but I believe he is still hanging on to her in case he changes his mind. OW is still in the waiting, as am I... Please help, any adivse on what to do? Sometimes I want to plan B, but don't have the courage. Afraid of losing H altogether since we have been separated for so long. Thanks all!
