Well, the fog has lifted, the PA is over and the WS wants his life with his family back. We begin marriage counseling next week and with lots of prayers and the Lord willing we will begin to heal. Thanks to all who supported me during the past 5 months. Orchid, Rev, Redhat, Knight?mare, Cali keep up the good work and the good words for without you I wouldn't have gotten through the last couple of months. I will keep you posted.

Good morning,<p>I apologize for crashing your thread. I just wanted to add my prayers for your family. It seems you've been through quite a bit, but the work you've done is paying off.<p>God bless!

Good morning SCHurt<p>I am new to MB but is a similar situation, I just need to know how long did it took him to get out of the FOG. My W is in FOG since 7 wks when the A ended, though she has been in the FOG or EA for 6 months or so. She is still very much in the FOG and I am patiently waiting for her to come out of it but time is running out and so does my patience. Please let me know if I can learn anything from your experience, though its painful for all of BS but I gues we can help each other.<p>Will appreciate your feedback.
TheLion

[img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Good luck. Roll up your sleeves and get ready for some hard work. The "In Recovery" forum has some Terrific posters who have 'been there, done that.' <p>I look forward to your "In Recovery" posts.<p>Hugs,
Cali

Free2beme, thank you for your prayers. Cali, I hope I will see you there. There is still a long road to go down. TheLion, I guess it took my WS a good 2 months to come out of the fog after the affair end. But, his A was a PA. I think he was concerned because I was getting on with my life. I was working on plan A but I have never been a wallflower. I got involved with my church. I became involved with Little League baseball, Cub Scouts, PTO. I went camping with other kids and their fathers. I think he got scared because he put me in the position to be around a lot of eligible men. I know the nights are the hardest. However, I sat down with my WS around 3 mths and told him I was getting on with my life. I wished he would come along, but that was his choice. I changed myself because I wanted to. I did everything I wanted to do and couldn't find the time to do while married. I went to the library and read books about sex, exercise, affairs, dating. I also happened to leave these books lying around the house. (WS picks up kids twice a wk). I joined a gym. Great place to meet single people. My WS got scared. I will tell you we are a far way from working it out. He still lives elsewhere (my choice not his) but we are talking now and are getting professional help. <p>The one piece of advice I can give you is to make your mind up that if you do become single again where do you want to go and what do you want to be like. Start working on that and maybe she will see that you are changing. Don't let you patience get the best of you. I do not know whether you are a Christian or not. But, prayer got me through this time. God gave me money when I didn't think I would have the money to pay a bill. God let me sleep when I thought I would never sleep and he gave me patience. And if it had been truly over, I know he would have gotten me through starting over. <p>I will keep you in my prayers. Remember when you were dating your wife. The extra things you did for her. If she is like me, those where the things that were missing from my marriage. I love my WS for those special things that went away the roadside as the years went by. Now, we are learning that you must continue to have those special things.

Thanks SCHURT:<p>All my blessings are with you hope you and your H have a wonderful M .....<p>I will keep working on myself, and appreciate your advise...<p>Thanks once again!
TheLion - The betrayed one!