I need lot's of help. I am very confused right now about what to do. My wife left me for OM about 9 months ago. I have physical custody of my three kids. For the first four or five months she would keep telling me she was coming home and would set dates and then keep moving them forward. She rarely came home and saw me and the kids, maybe once or twice a month. The talk about coming home has now stopped. <p>Now things have just kind of been in a lull. I have told her that I plan on moving to the city she lives in, which is about 50 miles away to be closer to her and her family and my family so I can get some help with the kids. She is now coming to see us at least once a week. I believe I have been in a plan A for about three months. I have been living off unemployment for about six months. I am now trying to find employment but child care costs are going to about $1500 per month. Right now she is court ordered to pay me about $642 per month, but I think the only way she will help me with the child care is if I follow through with the legal separation and she would then be ordered to pay for half of the daycare once I become employed. I want to be employed when I do plan B, but it is very hard right now in the situation that I am in. She says she would quit her job and watch the kids if I got a job because of the daycare costs, but how could I do a plan B then?<p>WS is pregnant and due 08-25-2002. Father could be BS or OM.<p>My questions are:
Is it too soon to implement plan B when I do the legal separation? <p>The legal separation has been filed in the courts, I just need to let my attourney know when to have WS served with the papers.<p>Should I wait and do plan B until after the baby is born? Does this even matter.<p>Help?<p>BS
8 years married
9 years known
3 children in my custody(2,4, and 8)
Separated 9 months
known about affair 10 months
Plan A for about 3 months