My husband got back 3 days ago from a trip a week long trip. I know he that trip wasn't work related. He went to a city close to where OW lives. He wanted to be caught, he called me from her cell phone and we have caller ID. Last night I told him that I was leaving. I said it very calmly, I wasn't crying or anything. I just told him that he needed to spend some time with the kids, because I was buying plane tickets and going to my parents'. He got very upset. Why is he mad at me for wanting to leave? He told me that I could have done this at a better time. When I told him he was online emailing OW.
Since he has been back I have noticed that he has been more loving. Since D-Day he has referred to sex between us as just sex and last night he actually used the term making love, again. Whenever I walk by him he grabs my hand, rubs my arm, just touches me. He hasn't done that in a long time. He still won't tell me that he loves me. I told him yesterday that no matter what he did he couldn't change the way that I feel about him and his face softened.
Anyway, I let him talk me into staying. For one I can't tell him no to anything, even now. Another reason is that I am terrified that if I leave it will be the end. I have left one other time and he called me and asked me to come back. But that was a long 3 months and I don't know if I could handle leaving again. I don't know what I should do. I am so confused about his behavior. Any advice?
Thank You

Alexis,<p>Hi and welcome to MB. I see you have been registered since April. What have you read here? Are you in counseling? <p>If you feel confused, so does your H. It is good that he is treating you nicely but what are his motives? <p>Finding that out will help you see what to do next. For that you may need to work with a counselor. REad up on the basic concepts section and read the book surviving an affair and his needs/her needs. <p>The WS does strange things when caught. Lots of pent up anger inside also and eventually all that stuff comes out. How and when is something you might want to prepare for and then work on your reaction. <p>take care,
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I have known about A for about 3 months now. He told me that he was confused as to his feelings for me. He said that he loved me but was not in love with me. Well since then things have gotten better. It was only an EA before but I am positive that it is PA now. She lives out of state and I know he saw her when he was gone.
Every time I tell him that I am leaving he talks me into staying. He says that he wants to get a seperation, but he isn't doing anything about it. I asked him why he wanted me to stay here if he wants to get a seperation, I asked him if it was because of the kids. He said that he likes me being here. This is the first time that he has gotten angry out of the 3 times that I have decided I was leaving. This time I was actually online fixing to buy tickets.