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Unexpectantly Calm
#462761 06/24/02 11:51 AM
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I am hopping this site will help,, I am very calm, infact scary calm, i found out my H had another affair while he was out of town, it's been 3 years we've been back together,(Seperated because of this repeated behavior), Up till this point i've had the Family i've always wanted, loving H, Great kids, Secure Relationship, or so i thought.I feel i really need to keep this marriage for the children, Don't get me wrong i love my H beyond belief, So my ? is Im i just use to this? And Whats next? I'm willing to try anything to keep this family together and so is he.<p> (M) 9yrs
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#462762 06/24/02 09:38 PM
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Hi 2Calm:
I was just thinking that maybe you are so calm because deep down you knew it would happen again and you were just waiting and prepared for the news of another A. I sometimes wonder if it is an addiction or disease for those that have repeated A's. <p>I wish I had the answers but somehow your H doesnt feel he has anything to lose by doing this. Maybe he thinks you will always be there for him. I truly feel for you. God bless, Kim..
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#462763 06/24/02 09:42 PM
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Sounds to me like he figures there are no consequences to his behaviour. Staying married for the sake of the kids when you are miserable will only make the kids miserable. He treats you like a doormat, gets away with it, does it again...because he can!!! Enough! You need to find the strength to change this.
Re: Unexpectantly Calm
#462764 06/26/02 12:48 AM
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MovingForward i think you've slapped me to my sences, your Soooooo right,i just could'nt pin point it. Ha I'm kinda excited! Now if i can just get over the scared part and find the (COURAGE) as MGM says.I will be ok Right? <p> <p>Thanks for your reply's, It's good to know i'm really not alone.

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