I am six months into Plan B. I followed Plan A almost to the letter with only a minor slip or two. I am very proud of my behavior through all of this and know that my husband left with only nice thoughts of me. Even though he was in a fog when I tried to meet all of his emotional needs at the time, he now regonizes the fact that I was trying to be there for him. We have been married for 23 years and we have 4 children. He met the OW on the Net. She is also married. They moved in together last Aug. I have studied all of Dr. Harleys books and must say that they have been a blessing. I do not know where I would have been if didn't have some of the insight I have gained.

Hello Pookie4:<p>Well you doing great 6 months. I do not have that patience, I wish you all the best! I dont know what else we BS can do.... <p>Fight the fight for all it is worth it!
thelion

I've run the race... A -> B -> D
...and although it ended in a divorce...
...you can make it through it ALL!<p>Hang tough!<p>And remember... Plan B... is time for you to heal...
...and forgive.<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Jim/NSR

Hi NSR:<p>how do you feel now after all said and done...
I am in sort of plan B and getting prepared for D.. not sure if I am ready for it...<p>Please advise your experience!
thelion

It's not good to be in a "sort of" Plan B.<p>Go to a full Plan B...
...it is what gave me the time to heal myself...
...and let go!<p>Letting go of an unrepentant (could be BS or WS) spouse... can be healing.<p>I wasn't ready for the D...
...I think few people are ready for it...
...and that's why I started my Plan B... about 2 months before the divorce decree.<p>What has really gotten me through it all...
...is my faith...
...rediscovering ...rebuilding ...refreshing my understanding of my faith.<p>The continuation of my Plan B...
...has been further propped-up...
...by the outrageous things my xW has done...
...since her leaving, and even nore... after the divorce...
...she is a soul... truly lost in the muck of selfishness.<p>My life is significantly better...
...even though the struggles and challenges of single parenthood are daunting at times!<p>Plan A, and even more so Plan B, gave me the time to rediscover the me...
...that was covered up in a non-marriage (last 2 years)...
(clear now, only in hindsight)<p>If you approach both Plans as a building experience... a growing experience...
...time will allow "truth" and "beauty" to re-enter the way you view the whole world.<p>You can be a better person...
...by letting Plan B... discard the hurt...
...release the pain... unshackle the sadness... by letting go of someone... who refuses to understand... the choice of love.<p>I know now how much I am loved by friends, and family...
...but beyond all that...
...how much God loves me!<p>Love... Peace... and most of all JOY...
to all!<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Jim/NSR