It's been a long time since I posted. I have been basking in the glow of marriage <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . Things have been going so well for my H & I. I keep expecting something to happen or some OW to call my house. Things went so wrong this last year that I look for the worse <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> .

I am truly happy & I can tell that my H is really trying to be FAITHFUL. He is an excellent father & a good person, in general. I feel that we are becoming friends again. I feel that we are re-connecting. Someone pinch me b/c I never thought that we would be this way again <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . I understand again, why I fell in love with him.

I am a little nervouse b/c his unit has just been mobilized. I am afraid that if he goes away again, there may be a repeat of his A. He & I have made plans to visit while he is stationed in another state. I am determined not to let distance interfere in our marriage again <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> . Unfortunately, I can't go with him b/c Uncle Sam will not authorize it. The military comes first & family 2nd.

He is earning my trust though; I feel less stress when he walks out of the door now. I am not making excuses, but my H has a high sex drive & I am afraid that with the distance, he may stray again. The closer we get to his deployment date, the more afraid I become.

I need some encouraging words b/c he leaves at beginning of next month. Help!!!

I'm glad things are going so well.

Do consider the advice on the "In recovery" forum...
...they know the hard spots to watch out for in the bumps to come.

Keep the lines of communication as open as possible... when he's away.

BTW...
...I like your member number!

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Jim/NSR

Hi,

I'm happy to hear you are once again enjoying your marriage and you're doing well.

Is your H regular Army or National Guard? What is his mission? How far away is he going? I ask these questions because I'm active duty National Guard.

Have you discussed what the plan will be to protect yourselves from an A happening while he's gone? I would suggest a plan be discussed so you both know it and can live by it. I know in my state families are becoming very important. If the family of a soldier is falling apart then more than likely the soldier won't be as productive and may even stop attending drills or missions.

God bless you!

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