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My H leaves in 5 days out-of-state for business. He'll be gone for 3 weeks.

I'm starting to stress and I really didn't think I was over analyzing, but H said the other day to stop. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I've bitten my finger nails right off and I'm questioning his every move (to myself, not to him).

He missed his IC appt. last week and hasn't mentioned rescheduling it. This worries me that he really doesn't want to put the effort in. I haven't talked to him about it either since he told me he forgot to go - if he wants it, he'll take the time.

He also said he was going to bring home his paper work for the trip, but he didn't do that either.

tick tock tick tock his time is running out! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Have a great day!

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Hi,

I'm new to this so bear with me. I have watched on this site but never participated before. This situation is so similiar to mine. How do you deal with the internet A's? When does is become an A when WS is doing internet porn?

Hi, Elaine,

My H is big into porn too. My H does most everything from work (always has esp. after I found the cookies on our home pc 2 years ago) so it's hard to know exactly what he's up to.

I think the porn turns to an A when they start getting into chat rooms & game rooms... that's what my H did. Ppl say the game rooms are harmless (and they can be), but my H would start his internet A there then take it to email/IM.

I used to ask H all the time at the end of the day if he had viewed any porn or emailed with any women during the day... sometimes he'd say he looked at some porn and some days he'd tell me it's been quite a while. I don't ask him anymore mostly bc I really don't believe him so why bother and partly bc I really don't care anymore.

It's been about 3 years since this course has started (that I first started seeing the signs) so I'm a bit indifferent right now, sad to say!

Keep reading and posting ~ I find most of my sanity and greatest support here!

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Free2bme,

I sounds like we have a lot in common. My H seems to be online all the time. Usually he does it when we (me&kids) aren't home or when we are sleeping. I have spector on home computer now so I am trying to monitor what it is he is doing and with who. I wonder if he needs to do porn to replace the OW? I feel like it is a slap in the face when he does it. It makes me feel unwanted. He says it has nothing to do with me but he said that about the A too so I don't know what to believe.

ps. How do you put personal info at the end of your posts? Does it happen automatically or are you using the UBB code?

Hello, again,

You put the "signature" on the bottom of the posts by editing your profile (link found at top of page). That way it's always there when you make a post and don't have to do it each and every time (that would be exhasting)! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

My H doesn't really get on the computer much at home. We're separated at the moment and the computer stayed with me. I'm not sure what he would be up to if he had a computer at home. He did bring home a lap top from work, but it was old and didn't take the AOL software. Phew!

I do know my H is extremely busy at work right now getting ready for inspections and such so I don't think he's surfed the net too much.

My H's last OW was a coworker of his which really hit home since most previous ones were long distance. If we were to reconcile physically he has agreed to leave his job. I might not hold him to that since it appears she's moved on to her next married victim (they're all married).

Take care...