Posted update on GQII. Let me know what you think. Maybe to fog has lifted. Now it is my turn to decide if I want him back maybe. Has too much damage been done. How do I swallow my pride? I know working it out is better than DV and starting over, but can I respect myself if I give it a go <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

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I wish I would ave seen your story before you moved. I know not many people will agree with me butthe only way to find the truth is to be a detective. When he said he had a meeting you should have said Ok and then show up at the place without being seen and see what he is doing. Follow him from the office one night after work and see where he goes. It sounds like when you get upset then he becomes affectionate and verbally expresses his love. That sounds like the man who beats his wife and then the next day says how sorry he is and how much he loves her and it will never happen again, but it always happens again. Sounds like that is what he is doing but instead of hitting its cheating. Dont sell yourself short. He always praises the OW, if he knows that she is what is bothering or hurting your relationship he should try to not bring her up. Sounds like it is intentional. How would he like you bringing up something that you know bothers him. He also needs to realize everything he tells you is based on actions vs. intentions. you are basing his " I gotta work late" on his previous actions. It is his job to regain your trust. I also learned that women are emotional and men are physical. But calling their bluff works too I asked my significant other once if that was what he was so interested in then why was he wasting more and more of my time. He hasn't mentioned any other woman since. People get this feeling that well she has put up with this and this and she is still here, so I can keep doing it she isnt going anywhere. They find whatever it is gifts words etc that make everything all better and they use it over and over again. They know what to say or do to "make it all better" Sometimes I dont understand men if they are so unhappy they gotta look elsewhere why put us through so much pain? A good example I use too is what if when your daughter gets older and her boyfriend or husband does this to her wouldn't he be upset? Good luck I hope you can help him see clearly for you and your childs sake. Children grow up thinking this is how a relationship is supposed to be and get involved in worse. Be strong dont let him turn anything back on you. you are doing the right thing!