She's 33. She had an EA for a year and moved out to "find herself." Meanwhile I just have this suspicion that she is continuing the A, or possibly just flirting with every guy she meets to build her ego after the tearful admission that led to her separating from me.

She works long hours (12 -14 daily) and only has a few days off per month. But she hardly (if ever) wears her wedding ring. Meanwhile I plan-A like crazy, anyway. You'd hardly notice though, -I was always attentive and supportive to begin with. She just became spoiled and I don't know... maybe it's a midlife crisis. Still I have to bite my tongue at many of her moronic comments about marriage and respect.

I realize that I'm using the word "moronic" with regard to respect. But you have to understand that I never did prior to all of this. She has been callous and disrespectful toward me. And as a result I have lost all respect for her.

She occasionally apologizes for disappointing me. I want to tell her that she doesn't. She can't. At this point her thoughtless behavior is exactly what I expect.

She is not an idiot ... she is very smart to find excuses to continue her "addiction" of selfishness. Same like a crackhead ... when they are not in craving the feel guilty and find all and any reason to justify it (FOG) ... when they are craving for it she will not care a [censored] about anybody or anything. If you still have communication w/ her ... find out what is (hopefully not are) her "fix" and show her that you can meet them.

Good luck. -RH-