I started a Plan B back in early July. It lasted a month and the WW said she wanted to date again. It was hot and heavy for a week, and then she went off like a light switch again. Pretty much have been in Plan B again since early August. We never talk, and the only time she calls is for business stuff. I occasionally take some mail to her, but I make a point not to chit-chat. Last time she didn't even invite me inside. My DV papers are filed, and I will be eligible for a court date in about 2 weeks. Should I keep the Plan B going for another few months just to see if she might come around? I plan to just enjoy my time alone and use it for personal growth, traveling, spending time with family, hobbies, sports, etc. I'm fine alone, but still do want my wife back if she is willing. I was thinking of going ahead with the DV and then seeing how it goes from there b/c we can always remarry if she comes back after that. I guess I'm looking for some advice as to go thru with the DV and cut my losses or wait it out and possibly torture myself a little more <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Remember, no kids, no house, etc, etc. It's a simple divorce, and very inexpensive b/c my lawyer is a family friend.

nk:

Well, maybe you know what I'm going 2 say!

Look, you still love her, and you're still pretty fresh out of the D-day gate.

"wait it out and possibly torture myself a little more"

That's my pick. Only don't suffer, LEARN. I'll tell ya, it takes a while, but if you can get 2 the point where what she's doing doesn't matter 2 you, and you can still show her you love her for who she is, you'll be amazed at how she'll respond. That's what's happening 2 me right now. But we haven't separated, and I'm not in plan B (and we have kids and stuff).

Good luck 2 you, nk.

No disrespect intended NK but isn't the continuation of plan B after the divorce like the parachute opening up after you hit the ground?

Of course, if your willing to wait a long time, years maybe, you might get lucky and she just might fall in love with you again. But do you want to wait that long on something that might or might not happen?

I wish you luck and success.