Okay...tonight my son has his first hockey practice of the year. I am still continuing Plan A with my H (he moved out 2 months ago) and what I am wondering is this...we will both be at the hockey practice. Do I a) be nice and friendly and then sit somewhere other than with my H? or b) be nice and friendly and sit with my H?

We won't be going to every practice together. We will take turns once the season gets going, but there will be times and what is the best Plan A approach?

I'm not an MB expert, but, sometimes you need to do what you think is best in your heart, instead of what the people on this message board tell you to do. I've gotten very messed up over worrying about what people on here tell me to do sometimes, when what's in my heart is different.

But, my guess is that Plan A would seem to me to suggest that you should be kind and friendly to him, and offer to sit with him if you and he are comfortable with it. I suppose applying undue pressure (demanding to sit with him even if he's uncomfortable with it) would be a no-no, but if he's okay with it, and you're okay with it, do it! It gives you more of a chance to remind him how sweet you can be.

JB

I can relate to your hockey practice question, because I had the same one this time last year. The only difference is that we were I was in Plan B and it hurt to see my husband, so I kept my distance, but was still there to support my son!

I guess if you are still plan Aing, I don't see any harm in sitting with your husband. Just pray about it and if it seems comfortable and right, do it.

You want him to see the parts of you that he loves and he can only do that when you are together.

Good luck,
Le

Hi. Thanks for your notes. Well, I don't have to worry about it any more. My H decided to sign up to help coach the team, and therefore he will never be in the stands sitting with our daughter and me. He said 2 years ago he'd never coach again, so I guess he's done this on purpose to avoid sitting together.

As far as prayer goes. I pray every day and ask God what his plan is for me. I don't know why I'm going through this and I'd like to know if I've passed the 'test' yet because that's how I'm feeling. My H seems to be cruising..he's happy, things are working out, and I just get more and more 'dumped' on me. I seem to have one good day and then something new happens and it puts me back. I have faith and I have alot of people praying for me. I will keep praying, hoping that I will learn of some reason soon that this is happening to me and my children.