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Plan B Question ...
#463987 09/17/02 08:49 AM
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I'm moving into Plan B. I haven't drafted my letter yet, but I know SAA recommends that a copy of the Plan B letter be sent to the OP. What is the effect of sending the letter to the OP? I'm afraid that if I do so, my H will throw a huge fit & accuse me of all sorts of crazy things. I don't want to be seen as some stalker either. So how do you pull this one off?

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The first rule of Plan B...

...you can't control the feelings of the WS.

Learn to accept Plan B as a course of action where... you don't deliberately hurt the WS...
...but one where you move on... without regard to the reaction of the WS.

The only time to back out of a Plan B...
...is when the WS is truly repentant...
...and is willing to commit... really commit.

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Jim -
Does the Plan B letter serve as a wake up call to the OP? Well - wait let me think through that, if the OP has a copy of the letter the WS can't say the BS ran out on them or whatever other wild story they make up to have the OP's complete sorrow for them. Is that the correct train of thought?

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