Help. I found out Sept 8 that my husband and his "friend" (coworker who taught at same school he does) have turned their EA into a PA this summer. I contended for a while that he was having an EA, although I didn't know there was such a thing. He called it a "friendship". They worked out together, which progressed into walking together, then going places together. All the while he acted like I was crazy for questioning the intensity of their friendship. Now they are "in love" and plan to leave their spouses and be together. Well, my H has made the break (3 weeks ago), but apparently she hasn't. H has lived with sister in another city for 3 weeks, but I went by OW's house yesterday and saw her H there. I know he would have been the one to leave because that is her parent's land they are one. Soooo...what are the odds of both of them leaving their spouses and living happily ever after? Any success stories out there where they change their minds? I don't know if I can ever trust H again, even if he does decide, but what are the chances of them breaking it off with BOTH spouses and being together for a while? Both M's have children involved (Mine 2, hers 1).

Hi, I am sorry if this reply is late. Just going through the lists now. I have the same situation, although it has been a lot longer than you. My H left to be with OW last year. She is married too. Neither have filed for D. He writes many e-mails to discuss changes we would need if he came back. It has been that way all year. I have been in a modified plan B for 7 months. I am about to end ALL communications even though the talks sound good. It just has been too long. He is stalling. Be patient... that is all I can say. The end will eventually come. Pookie4