Some of you might have read my earlier posts.
I'm plan A'ing my wife for a month and I'm positive there are no LB's and I'm fullfilling the EN's she let me (affection mostly). She has opened up a little, so there is some progress.
Talked with my wife about making a plan on how she can achieve her independance in M, she said she will think about it and will let me know some issues by wednesday. So although she not really enthousiastic that part is covered.
One of the goals of plan A is to seperate the WS from the lover. In my case there is no lover, WW has an EN with a girlfriend.
So how am I going to implement the previously metioned part of plan A?
I feel we will not be able to start building our M unless the relationship between WW and the girlfriend changes.
Currently the girlfriend is still fullfilling one of her bigest EN's. This EN is talking, we talk but the most important things she discusses with her first and mostly I get to hear the decisions she's made. The other part of their relationship is that the girlfriend is a needy person and WW feels good about herself if someone needs her.
She hasn't come with me to my SIL's birthday yesterday, guess she's affraid she had to talk about what she's doing with my relatives. I can understand this, but if she's so sure she's doing the right thing why hide yourself? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
Can somebody give me some advice in how to proceed from here?
Also I'm not sure on how to deal with taking the initiative concerning making dates and stuff. Mostly I'm the one proposing to do stuff, although she did take the initiative to contact me a few times the past two weeks.
What's wise. Taking the initiative or waiting for her to do so?
Tnx for helping me out here.
