It has almost been a year since my discovery of my husbands affair with a co-worker. He has never 'come clean' and still denies everything except for what I have hard evidence for. At least 3 times (after finding hard evidence that they still have contact)has claimed each time he has made it clear to her that they only have a "professional" relationship. Well, this is her third marriage she has broken up that I am aware of. And does not seem to want to 'give him up'.
It seems he will only attempt to rectify our marriage only when push comes to shove. After he thinks the 'air' is clear, things go back to how they were. Even though we are still with each other, and living together, I have filed divorce (for the second time) and have told him I will not cancel until I think things are better.
He at least is civil to me now, he was very verbally abusive in the past. However, has only went to counseling once since I have filed. I believe that was due to a recent blow up at work in which I confronted the OW.
He cancelled a counseling appointment this week, because he went hunting and to help his dad. Gee, where are his priorities. I guess same as they always are........... I'm the last on the list, if on the list at all.
He jokes around about "what are we going to do in 5 weeks, just be roommates?" I really don't believe he thinks I'm serious about this divorce. In short of kicking him out, I don't know how else to make him believe that he needs to work on our marriage!!
I feel I've tried everything. He's selfish, materialistic and doesn't even seem to really care what makes me happy. I'm a stay at home mom so he expects me to do everything -- from the usual cleaning the house, cooking the meals, always taking care of the kids, to his ironing, errands, waiting on him hand and foot (literally!!). I have asked myself at this point, do I really want to spend the rest of my life like this? We do have a family (2 small children) and this is his second marriage so I also have a stepson as well. Just doesn't seem like he learned much from his first divorce.
Where do I go from here? Any advice would be helpful and appreciated!!!