I read somewhere on these boards, Dr Harley suggest no plan B if you and H have no children. Can someone tell me why is that.

Plan A has me feeling and looking like a fool, to family, friends and myself here lately. I've been the one initiating contact.

It seems I was only used to lick his wounds after he left OW you see Ow married someone else 3weeks after my H left her.

In the begining H was calling, telling me how much he loves me etc. H said he wasn't ready to come back home right now. He doesn't know what the future holds. H sends mix messages. H said he just got out of a relationship he's confused and etc. H said he needs time to get to know me all over again.

Now the only time I here from H. if I call him. H. use to return my calls, not any more. I eventually calls him back. H seems to be his same old self, without the attitude but H is distancing himelf it seems like..

Only difference is he's not cold to me maybe because I'm not giving H ammunition.

MALC,

Where do you read that ?. Actually it is harder to plan B w/ kids. As general rule of thumb, you have to be careful to go into plan B and you have to follow the guideline and w/ plan B letter.

Why don't you read CarrolH's post and try it out. Let him chase you a bit ... Right now H is greifing for the losses of OW (sorry) and watch out for OW#2. Stick with good plan A ... concentrate on yourself physically & emotionally. Change your look, bleach you hair ... do anything to show you are changing too. Be misterious and don't give much info. to your H.

Good luck -rh-

Thank You Redhat

I read that on one of the post I forgot which forum, it was on MB I was surprise when I read it.

I will read Carol post is she located on this site
PlanA/PLANB?

I'm feeling the OW #2 H claims there is no one. I don't believe him. I will definitly let him do the chasing. Once again thanks very much.