I know this sounds odd. My WH told me in Feb. 2002 about an ongoing friendship/affair since Aug. 2000. He would not leave at this point not wanting to make a mistake however, not want to give up that special something the A had given him. Since that point in time I have done my best Plan Aing with mistakes and some LBing but overall accepting the fact I cannot control his behavior.
Since that time many more friends and family have found out because OW and WH did not go into hiding but exactly the opposite ate public lunches hung out together etc. I felt like they flaunted it with as much to treat eachother as trophies like I still got it. It was very hurtful.
None the less on at least 3 occasions, this public display has left me discussing not contact if WH wants me as his wife. I have been clear that the decission was his and to make himself happy. Each time he left for 1 night only to return the next day pledging love to me in front of kids. I know manipulation.
The rub is each and everytime I welcomed him back trying to believe only to get disappointed again. My love bank for him is breathing E. I think he is doing all he knows how but it is not enough and each time he withdraws it get harder and harder to take him back. He will not leave. He says if he leaves he won't come back. The only measure left for me is Plan B but again I can't get him to leave without an order. I can't do that.
Is it feasable to Plan B with him in the house. Ignoring him or giving him solitude? I don't want the kids to see such cruelity that he has inflicted on me being given back in a vengeful way. Of course everything is my fault and I am the unstable one.
What do you think. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
